Female Wrestler

Question
I'm a female wrestler, first year. I'm 5 foot 3 inches and i weight at 140. my problem is, i'm not aggressive enough, don't follow my instinct enough, and i worry about what people say too much. a lot of people around school, even some of my teammates, say girls cant wrestle, i'm pathetic for trying, i might as well be a boy, i'm not a girl, etc. i have a few teammates who rough them over when they say that stuff, and they think i'm doing well, but i dont know. i'm not agrressive when i wrestle with my 2 main partners, guys who are some of my best friends. i get scared of hurting them and i'm not agreesive, nor do i follow my instinct. then i get up against someone that i've never wrestled against, and my mind blanks and my instinct kicks in and the next second they're pinned and i'm the winner. it fels crazy but so amazing. so i dont know what to do. i dont wrestle my best in practice, scared of hurting them. and in the back of my head i have the words of people, i cant do it, i'm a girl, etc. my first match is in 3 days. i'm nervous as hell. i'm scared of losing in front of my teammates and proving that a girl cant wrestle. what do i do? they're being bad teammates, but what can i do about it? and how do i get more agressive and into that mode where i'm pure wrestler, pure instinct and i can win?

Answer
with all that being said i have a question for you: who do you try to prove yourself to? if you're wrestling for the appreciation of admiration of your peers. i'll save you the trouble, you won't get it. not because you're a girl. but because they don't understand wrestling.  its not basketball, or football, or track.  its not an a+b=c. they don't understand it so they naturally fear it, they think its not cool. the guys on your team the roughed up those other guys.  that's pretty much all you get out of this sport.  a bunch of really good friends that you have gone into battle with, who understand how hard it is, and that not everyone can do it.  

with the whole "not being aggressive in practice" thing.  they're going to be going at you hard.  so i don't know why you wouldn't want to get them back.  its not mean, it is what it is. just practice. let loose a few times and i'm sure you'll be a better person for it.  have fun with it, that's about all you can do. if you get made fun of, tell them to come to the wrestling room and try it with someone their size.  no way they'll do it. or if they do, it'll be a lot of fun to watch. keep your chin up, you'll be alright.