i dont need help with my game. i just need to know what i should do.

Question
Im in the 8th grade and im about to finish off my season. My team plays in only 3 days for the state championship! We're a pretty good team but there s ALOT of drama involved! and i dont know if im going to be able to take it in high school. I do not like drama whats so ever and they all know that. and im not all the good of a passer so they ar used to calling me out on their mistake even if i was no where around, if we are loseing 3 of the girls on my team will just glair at you because you just made a mistake, i dont get set when im in the front row i get maybe 1 of every 5 sets, so i try my best in serveing and blocking. im not meaning to sound cocky but i think i do a fair job in those but everytime i sever i think this one girl intentionally messes up becuase she has to be better then me at everything!!! and when i block ad they come back over i have no one backing me up! i dont really want to play in high school becuase i get frusstraighted so easily with it all. and i have talked to my coach and she said she was going to change it all but it only lasted one game! i love my to death, but i dont really care for about 4 of my team mates. Should i even bother going out for high school ot see how it all turns out. my parents told me its my decision and they will support me either way. but thats not helping me out at all. so i was woundering if you could! so please help me!!!
                              Sincerely,
                                        Sam

Answer
Good morning, and welcome to allexperts.com!

A) There are many areas involving a team that a coach cannot control.  You listed several.  The stares, the glares, etc.  These come from the brats on your team, and are often unnoticed by a coach.  If you know that next year you're going to be trying out for a team that's full of brats, then I wouldn't advise you to try out.  You'll be miserable.  I also have to make the decision as a club coach...."Do I want to coach that team?  I've heard they have a horrible attitude and their parents are just as bad."  So sometimes I have say no, I can't coach that team.  My point to all this:  A coach has power over a lot.  But a coach can't turn a brat into a good kid.  So you may have to just not play next year.

B) There are some things a coach can control.  Who gets the sets.  Right now on my team, there are girls who aren't going to get many sets b/c other players are so much better.  Everyone knows that and accepts that.  We play for the state club championship for Virginia this morning.  Two of my spikers are probably going to get 60% of the sets.  I agree with that distribution.  However, last night, when we were up 23-15 against a team, one of the girls who doesn't get set much got the final two sets of the game, and put both down.  That was awesome.  If you're getting 1 out of every 5 sets, then that's more than some of my girls get!  And each of my spikers are starters on their high school teams.

C)  Your parents were right.  You have to decide.  I recommend you find out who's trying out and who's coaching.  I recommend you go to the summer activities and camps, go ahead and do the fundraising, the weight lifting & conditioning, etc., then a week before tryouts, make up your mind.  Then stick with it.  If you find that you made a mistake, then in 2 or 3 months, it'll all be over.  

You are in the same situation that thousands of girls are in across the USA.  In fact, there are probably more girls who are in your situation than girls who aren't!  And I'd imagine the majority of teams are a lot like what you described about your team.  Pretty much the only vball teams that don't have brats are the ones where the girls fear the coach's wrath so much that they don't show their brattiness during practice or during matches.  But, from my experience, I'm sorry to say that I believe that your team isn't rare at all.  :(  

Thank you again for visiting!  And please visit www.coachhouser.com!  I think you'll love the smiling faces.